Just Thoughts and Nothing Else

When I think of the thought of letting go of anything, I think of all the many times we all have let go of something or someone!

Just think of a child that is learning to walk? The first time they let go of their parents hands to take that first couple of steps. Then think as they grow a little more and they have to let go of that pacifier? Or the bottle? Then that first time they go off to pre-school or kindergarten and they let go of your hand with braveness written all over their little faces and who cries more?
Then they go off to school one day and won't let you give them their good bye kisses for the day because the other kids will see. They have let go of that security of that good bye kiss.

Then the day comes when they find a boyfriend/girlfriend and you remain behind as their once favorite girl/boy in their life, because they've found another.
Then they are off to college and you have to let go of them to a strange new world and some of their belongings leave with them which makes it even more devasting because this makes it real and you have to let go. Their room is empty and you wonder how will they ever take care of themselves? What if, what if, what if.?????

They come home after all the what if's, and start a new career and suddenly they are off again and letting go of the security of home only after they've landed that perfect job and decide they are way to mature and self sufficient to live at home any more so they are off again and get their own apartment or condo or house.
Now, they find that special someone that fills their lives and makes them think that they will be able to hold on forever!

Life happens while we wait for the forever to happen, and sometimes people leave us because it's a relationship that just didn't work out or because of divorce, or they leave us because God has taken them to a better place!

We don't sometimes understand how to let go in any of these circumstances. Relationships have the one partner that seems to hang on for dear life, or it has no one hanging on at all and it's a mutual understanding of sorts, but those relationships that hang on because one partner never saw it coming and even if they did, they just didn't want to fail or to think that they failed because of something they could have done. But eventually when relationships fail, letting go is inevitable and it's something we must do...

Then you have Divorce. Letting go gets tough sometimes then because you have memories involved or children and you don't want to let your children down because of something you did or your spouse did to ruin what once was beautiful...But again, letting go becomes inevitable because if you don't, you will never find peace. Plus the fact that it makes it so hard for the kids.
Letting go is letting go of your feelings, letting go of their hand, letting go and making them stand on their own. Letting go of the promise you made to each other. Letting go of the piece of your heart that belonged solely to them.

Then you have a loved one passing and that's a whole different kind of letting go, because you never have the option of even passing them again on the street, or fighting with them about picking up the kids late, or how much you had to pay this month in child support or alimony.
You only have the extreme loneliness, the heartache, the years of feeling like you don't belong anymore! You always have the feeling that you are a fifth wheel or that you are no good to anyone without your partner of life.....People start to judge you in a way because they think that because you were married you were partners forever! They don't like that you might be thinking of moving on with your life and that's not right of you!
Especially when there are children or even adult children involved. I ask this, should the spouse that was left behind died too when their spouse died? Should you have just thrown yourself in the grave beside him? Should you ever take a deep breath again or be judged that you started too soon at moving on with your life? Just so that you could feel like taking those baby steps and breathing and smiling and feeling again?

When is ever the right time in any situation of life, whether a baby letting go of it's mothers hand or the time when your spouse is gone from your life and you weren't given a choice?
Letting go is not an easy process for anyone, but it is a process in life that we all must handle because "It is what It is!"

So as you go through life and you have to make that choice of letting go, let know man or woman judge you as to if you are right or wrong. Your child was not given the choice that you would let go of them with that first step no more than you were given a choice when a loved one passed on and you had to learn to breathe all over again.

Let no one judge you in any way, because they must stand and be judged too for the things they have done in their lives.
Let no one tell you that you were wrong for letting your child try to walk too soon and they got a bump on their head, or the child that you sent off to college missed out on many opportunities because you weren't there to guide them or to keep them from harm.
Nor you letting go of a spouse to move on in any circumstance. Letting go is part of life.

Letting go makes everyone move forward, move ahead, move on!

The choice is not always yours to make, but is a choice you sometimes have to make. It is a choice that let's us take that first step, and have that first kiss.

"So always remember it's okay to let go, no matter what the future holds for that one quick decision or that long thought out one, because you will not be judged for letting go,
but rather more for not!"
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