"Just Me"
March 31, 2010
Organizing Your Life
Wednesday, March 31, 2010 | 
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Sometimes it's hard to organize your life, your house, your job, your time, your kids. The juggling act that most people do sometimes becomes overwhelming, especially if you are a person that thinks about doing rather than actually accomplishing the doing!
I remember personally the times I would watch people when they move and then have to unpack from the move. Some people would keep saying, I have to do this or that and then walk in a circle and say it again a few minutes later and still nothing is accomplished.
It doesn't mean they aren't the "Doers" it just means they are the "Thinkers" and don't know how to escape the thousands of thoughts they are thinking about on how to get the job done! So they talk and think a lot about the task at hand while the "Doers" don't give much thought to how and why, just "get er done"
Now I don't really talk that way, but I thought it was cute when I heard it from someone quite some time ago. Those thinkers will get the job done sooner or later, but the route they take sometimes frustrates them and sometimes so much so that they can't get things done and they wait for the doers to take over or tell them what to do next even though they knew in their heads that's what had to happen but didn't know where to start. I say, "Start at the beginning and you'll never get lost, so just start" js
Never the less, I think you have to figure out what it is that you want to organize. If it's your home, then all I can say to you is rather than walk through the whole house trying to get the entire thing organized at one time I suggest that you go into one room and figure out what's needed and what's not just like they do on those getting organized shows because they really do understand clutter. But knowing that you can't do it all at one time and that you need to take baby steps when trying to accomplish things is half the battle. One room at a time, and throw away or give away or donate all that is not needed and that just might be put to better use in someone else s hands.
Now if you are talking about organizing your life with allowing time with the kids, time with your job, time with your husband/wife, then it all starts with prioritizing. Don't give it too much thought because then you become just a thinker about things rather than the doer of things. Of course there will be unexpected things that will come up and change your plans a little but if you give each day time for the "unexpected" then you will always have time to do what is on your expected list.
First make a list of the things that are really valuable to you and that make sense. I want to read a story to my kids, or I want to sit on the porch with my husband and a cup of coffee and just have a great talk about our day. I want to sit in a hot bath and just reflect on my day. I want to sit at the dinner table with the whole family and not be interrupted with phone calls, texting and TV. Just a nice family dinner even if it's just once a week where everyone sits and listens to the rest of the family and what's been happening in their worlds all week.
So if it's on your list, you can accomplish anything because you have all the necessary tools to take charge of your hectic life, but only if you wish it to be so! I just think, nothing happens unless you make it happen. You must be a doer mixed with a thinker to accomplish anything. I think list makers get things accomplished because it's a haunting of sorts because they know that list is there and they must get it done! "If I don't get this done, everyone will see that I didn't do what I said I was going to do" I think it's the competitive thing going on with themselves. But it's truly not a bad thing, just something that some people need to make it happen!
If you think about it, aren't people who make things happen in their lives for the good, the ones that have set goals for themselves and because of their competitive nature, they must accomplish that or they will in their eyes be failures.
How I feel in life and this is just a personal thing, "If you reach for the moon, but can only catch a few stars then you are already a winner,"js Setting goals in my mind, is the same as long as you leave that margin of error open. I am not saying that you can't get that moon, I'm just saying don't be so hard on yourself if you don't!
Determination and persistence will help you get where you want to go. It affords you to make the time to do the things that are important to you, because someday they will be the things that have made your "great memories" throughout your lifetime. It will be the fact that you took the time to notice that your infant just learned how to turn a doorknob without you even showing them. Or maybe it's the first time you see your little girl put on a necklace and you didn't even teach her that either. You say to yourself, WOW how did they know how to do that? But your memories won't be the fact that you've rushed through your day just to get through it and you missed all those moments. Those rushed days won't even seem important at all, and you might not even remember them or why they were so important at the time! I always think it's about taking the time to smell the roses, listen to the sounds of life and children and having the gift of knowing true love at least once in your lifetime.
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It's sort of like dieting. If you reach for the impossible, you sometimes disappoint yourself and never get there, but if you reach for something realistic when you start and increase it every three months or so, it's like setting short term goals for you to reach much easier.
Organizing your life and what's important is about the road you travel to get to your destination. The road might be bumpy and curvy but at the end of it, what you expected would be there might not be anymore, and without the "margin of error" built into your plans, you will be greatly disappointed when you reach it. You will not have been flexible enough to know that it's okay and you can just rearrange a little.
So in my opinion only, it's about knowing what you want even if it seems mumble jumble at times, but to organize what's important to you will be your greatest reward in the end.
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I remember personally the times I would watch people when they move and then have to unpack from the move. Some people would keep saying, I have to do this or that and then walk in a circle and say it again a few minutes later and still nothing is accomplished.
It doesn't mean they aren't the "Doers" it just means they are the "Thinkers" and don't know how to escape the thousands of thoughts they are thinking about on how to get the job done! So they talk and think a lot about the task at hand while the "Doers" don't give much thought to how and why, just "get er done"
Now I don't really talk that way, but I thought it was cute when I heard it from someone quite some time ago. Those thinkers will get the job done sooner or later, but the route they take sometimes frustrates them and sometimes so much so that they can't get things done and they wait for the doers to take over or tell them what to do next even though they knew in their heads that's what had to happen but didn't know where to start. I say, "Start at the beginning and you'll never get lost, so just start" js
Never the less, I think you have to figure out what it is that you want to organize. If it's your home, then all I can say to you is rather than walk through the whole house trying to get the entire thing organized at one time I suggest that you go into one room and figure out what's needed and what's not just like they do on those getting organized shows because they really do understand clutter. But knowing that you can't do it all at one time and that you need to take baby steps when trying to accomplish things is half the battle. One room at a time, and throw away or give away or donate all that is not needed and that just might be put to better use in someone else s hands.
Now if you are talking about organizing your life with allowing time with the kids, time with your job, time with your husband/wife, then it all starts with prioritizing. Don't give it too much thought because then you become just a thinker about things rather than the doer of things. Of course there will be unexpected things that will come up and change your plans a little but if you give each day time for the "unexpected" then you will always have time to do what is on your expected list.
First make a list of the things that are really valuable to you and that make sense. I want to read a story to my kids, or I want to sit on the porch with my husband and a cup of coffee and just have a great talk about our day. I want to sit in a hot bath and just reflect on my day. I want to sit at the dinner table with the whole family and not be interrupted with phone calls, texting and TV. Just a nice family dinner even if it's just once a week where everyone sits and listens to the rest of the family and what's been happening in their worlds all week.
So if it's on your list, you can accomplish anything because you have all the necessary tools to take charge of your hectic life, but only if you wish it to be so! I just think, nothing happens unless you make it happen. You must be a doer mixed with a thinker to accomplish anything. I think list makers get things accomplished because it's a haunting of sorts because they know that list is there and they must get it done! "If I don't get this done, everyone will see that I didn't do what I said I was going to do" I think it's the competitive thing going on with themselves. But it's truly not a bad thing, just something that some people need to make it happen!
If you think about it, aren't people who make things happen in their lives for the good, the ones that have set goals for themselves and because of their competitive nature, they must accomplish that or they will in their eyes be failures.
How I feel in life and this is just a personal thing, "If you reach for the moon, but can only catch a few stars then you are already a winner,"js Setting goals in my mind, is the same as long as you leave that margin of error open. I am not saying that you can't get that moon, I'm just saying don't be so hard on yourself if you don't!
Determination and persistence will help you get where you want to go. It affords you to make the time to do the things that are important to you, because someday they will be the things that have made your "great memories" throughout your lifetime. It will be the fact that you took the time to notice that your infant just learned how to turn a doorknob without you even showing them. Or maybe it's the first time you see your little girl put on a necklace and you didn't even teach her that either. You say to yourself, WOW how did they know how to do that? But your memories won't be the fact that you've rushed through your day just to get through it and you missed all those moments. Those rushed days won't even seem important at all, and you might not even remember them or why they were so important at the time! I always think it's about taking the time to smell the roses, listen to the sounds of life and children and having the gift of knowing true love at least once in your lifetime.
Watch Addictive uncontrollable laughter in Autos & Vehicles | View More Free Videos Online at Veoh.com
It's sort of like dieting. If you reach for the impossible, you sometimes disappoint yourself and never get there, but if you reach for something realistic when you start and increase it every three months or so, it's like setting short term goals for you to reach much easier.
Organizing your life and what's important is about the road you travel to get to your destination. The road might be bumpy and curvy but at the end of it, what you expected would be there might not be anymore, and without the "margin of error" built into your plans, you will be greatly disappointed when you reach it. You will not have been flexible enough to know that it's okay and you can just rearrange a little.
So in my opinion only, it's about knowing what you want even if it seems mumble jumble at times, but to organize what's important to you will be your greatest reward in the end.
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March 29, 2010
Today is a New day!
It's funny when you think about waking up one morning and suddenly a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. You heart is less heavy and you feel as if the sun can show it's face again. It's a time when you thought that your world was crashing down around you and yet somehow today, everything is new and fresh and the little loves in your life are happy, healthy and full of mischief! Life is a precious gift, health for our children is a precious gift and we should be thankful every day for the sunshine they bring into our lives!
Family and friends are a blessing to behold. Some of my days are much more hectic than others but my blessing are unmeasurable! Every single moment I can spend with my grandchildren make me understand the quiet moments alone! Although I appreciate some of those alone moments, I wouldn't have my life any other way!
All is well in my world today so maybe I'll just listen to happy songs and bake some strawberry muffins!
God Bless all the children of the world
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Family and friends are a blessing to behold. Some of my days are much more hectic than others but my blessing are unmeasurable! Every single moment I can spend with my grandchildren make me understand the quiet moments alone! Although I appreciate some of those alone moments, I wouldn't have my life any other way!
All is well in my world today so maybe I'll just listen to happy songs and bake some strawberry muffins!
God Bless all the children of the world
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March 28, 2010
"Lest we Forget"
I hear so many people bashing our new President and it angers me. People voted for him to make a change, because they thought it was possible for our country to come together with hope! So when everyone gives up that hope is there really a chance for hope to survive and conquer or have we not given our new President our support?
I think people forget where we've been and how we got there?
If our country would just stop criticizing and write to their Congressman that do nothing but fight against each other while all the rest of us struggle to just SURVIVE!
Just try and remember where we've been!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think people forget where we've been and how we got there?
If our country would just stop criticizing and write to their Congressman that do nothing but fight against each other while all the rest of us struggle to just SURVIVE!
Just try and remember where we've been!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So let's just try to give our President the RESPECT that he deserves with the hopes that maybe he will find a way with our support!
Rome wasn't built in a day, and if we all fought together to make a difference, maybe we could!
And if you don't remember what a great country we are privileged to live in think of our soldiers who are fighting throughout history to keep us safe!
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Rome wasn't built in a day, and if we all fought together to make a difference, maybe we could!
And if you don't remember what a great country we are privileged to live in think of our soldiers who are fighting throughout history to keep us safe!
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March 25, 2010
Peace
What is peace to anyone? Is it the look of a meadow with it's early morning dew? Or the sounds of birds getting together planning their day?
Sometimes it's an inner peace that gives you a sense of calm, that you don't even know where it comes from sometimes, but you know it's part of your life because you've sensed it from time to time!
Maybe it's someone in your life that gives you peace, makes you feel at home, makes you feel this overwhelming calmness that you just can't seem to explain.Sometimes that calmness gives you security and a sense of purpose. Sometimes that calmness envelopes you and takes you to another place that only you can feel.
Then peace comes for others in the sounds of a loved ones voice, or their touch. But only you know where your peace comes from and if you are lucky enough to shut the world out sometimes just long enough to enjoy that peace, it can be there.
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March 24, 2010
A Friend's request
I dedicate this to my friend who likes to “Blog” and wanted me to add to her “crabby corner”! Yes she finds humor in the misery of my life! So here it goes:
Why I am crabby?
I start my day trying to sneak out of bed a little early for some “alone time” before the “Old One” gets out of bed, I sometimes get 20-30 minutes of peace! I wake to “the dogs” Got to let the dogs out ya know, no time for the news or a peaceful cup of coffee, no that’s right, “the dogs” have to go out right now! Okay let them out, go sneak a smoke and a sip of coffee in the garage, then I have to hurry and let them in before the “Old One” goes to sneak a peek out the window, has to see if the dogs went potty? If I hurry I can get them in before she goes to the blinds and bends the heck out of them trying to get that peek! So I let them in, head back to my spot on the couch to try to catch a few minutes of the news and a nice cup of coffee. The “Old One” wants to know if the dogs went potty. I suppose my life would be easier if I just said “YES”, but I don’t like to lie, so I say to her “I don’t know, I don’t look at their asses to see if anything came out, don’t care, if they have to go, they will”. Is there anything wrong with that statement I ask you? There it goes, the head in the hand by the old one, guess I said something wrong. Oh well back to the news, no wait, the Old one is reading the bottom marquee out loud, okay forget that. On to the shower for me, have to get ready for work. It takes me two seconds to walk to my room, Whoops, forget something in the kitchen. Holy cow the old one has already got up and filled the dog dishes with food and has them sitting on the floor ready to eat! Never seen her move so fast in my life! Okay back to the shower, 10 minutes later I’m out, I hear from the other room “PUFFER, GET OVER HERE AND EAT!” This is funny to me, this dog should be no bigger than 12 lbs, and I think he weighs at least 22lbs! Oh well not my dog.
I hurry for the door to head to work, but my secret is that I really have 10 minutes before I have to leave so I head out to the garage for a smoke and some coffee, the good thing is there is a TV in the garage so I get to watch that news!Off to work! Living the dream for 10 years now at work! Office work is so very interesting, sit at the desk all day on the ass that once was little, and stare at a computer all day! At work I am known as “The problem child” That’s right I have been moved to so many desks in this office over the years. Why you ask? I “don’t play nice with others”! Hmm, don’t get that about myself. I’m just sitting here doing what they tell me to do, don’t understand? Wait here she comes, nosey old lady trying to get information out of everyone to spread the news through the office. Not me, not going to get anything out of me, no way! I only talk to the “real people”, don’t care for phoney people, by the way that’s how you get ahead in the office world, kiss lots of boss Ass! Again, not my bag baby. Have you ever heard of an employee getting in trouble for asking their boss to give them some more work? Hmm, I get in trouble for that! Wonder if they can read my inner most thoughts? Oh boy, a lot going on in that head of mine, but I try not to let it out in public! Geez so much to say about work, have to get back to that another time.
Jump ahead to 3pm, Love of my life calls every day about that time. Want to know what he has to say? “what’s going on tonight, what about dinner” What’s wrong with that you ask? Well let me tell you. We (love of my life and me) do absolutely nothing every night of our life, he sits in one room, I sit in the other with the “old one” and nothing EVER goes on! Dinner, don’t give a rats ass about dinner, so why does he ask me every day of my life??? 20 something years of that, gets old! Okay way too much to say about that Man of mine! I will talk more about him and the “family” another time. Wait till you hear about that wonderful “family” of mine!
Okay skip ahead to 5pm, QUITTING TIME!” Yahoo, I get to go home! Walk in the door, the “old one” wants to tell me something! “The dogs haven’t been out yet”. The reason she tells me this is cause she can’t wipe my dogs feet when he comes in, my dog is 90lbs of red hairy dog! But she finds a way to wipe their feet at least 10 times a day, cause let me tell you, if they look at her, she thinks they have to go potty! Okay I try and try to convince her, they don’t need to go out, they just WANT to go run around the yard. But anyway, get past the fact that I haven’t even put my purse down or taken off my shoes yet, she greets me at the back door to inform me of this fact. Okay, just do it, let them out, whew that’s over with. Okay love of my life has dinner ready. OH MY GOD, can I have a few minutes to chill please? NOPE, gotta get the dogs out, gotta eat right now!
Dinner is over with, dogs are out and its 6pm! Ahh, get to sit down and relax. NOPE, just sat down and the “old one” is staring at me! I look over, I did try to pretend I didn’t see that. Guess what? “don’t you think the dogs need to go potty?” Are you freakin kidding me? Okay, here’s my chance to go have a smoke and a beer in the garage. Okay, back to the couch, “what’s on TV tonight” I ask, my waiting of making conversation ya know? Idol is on, oh GREAT, now I get to hear all about the “old one’s” day! “Don’t you think your dog shits too much? It’s gross out there, the biggest shit I’ve ever seen”. My comment: “No she is a big dog, it’s not unusual”. What I’m thinking you ask? QUIT LOOKING AT THE SHIT! Who gives a rats ass? Okay, let’s move on, I have not heard more about the dogs shit than anyone could possibly handle, I have been rushed in the door to eat by my loving man who by the way has said nothing else to me the entire night, but that’s fine with me, cause I have been busy talking about shit all night. Haven’t seen much of the Idol, been a little busy, letting the dogs in and out ya know? Yeah, bedtime, Ahhh peace and quiet, wait, nope, here comes the love of my life! How I ask, does somebody get in to bed one minute, and one minute later he is SNORING so LOUD? That’s it! I’m pissed now, I give him a few polite pokes, that doesn’t work, so I throw him out of bed and tell him to “get in the other room and don’t come back until I am sound asleep!” Good night, more tomorrow.
By: A Friend
March 21, 2010
The Climb
When I think about mountains to climb, I think about that song by "Miley Cyrus"
I think about how all my feelings about the things I've been through in just "my life" came all into focus when I heard that song for the very first time!
Starting as a young married person who thought the world was an easy place to be and really thought that everything would just be fine if I wished it to be true! Naive to say the least don't you think?
Well never the less, trials and tribulations always happen in marriages and I'm sure in some more than others.
I was also sure that I would know exactly what to do when it came to making my childrens life better than the things that were in mine and again Naive hey? Some things of course were better for them than what was in mine but there too, mistakes are made and we can only do the best we are capable of doing! We give fairness, protection, attention, praise, truth, great amount of patience, a bit of knowledge, and most of all, unconditional LOVE!
You strive to be the best parent you know how but of course you will make mistakes. You pray that you can have few battles when raising your children and you pray that you can keep them healthy and safe!
Your life keeps climbing those mountains along the path of that climb in hopes that getting to the other side of that mountain will be worth it. But the truth is, "What is on the other side is always a mystery" Never knowing is part of the intrigue of it all. Wanting to uncover the mystery makes you keep forging forward. Wanting to experience the thrill if there will even be one when you get there!
You are challenged through your life with many climbs and trying to make the best of each and every one of them is the key.
I've experienced several climbs in my lifetime thus far, and somehow, some way, I keep getting through them! Sometimes I just don't know how, but I do. I guess the old saying, "What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger" really has some meaning!
But I have to say now, that the climb, the path, that I have been given to try and climb this time has been a little different and somewhat challenging this time more so than any other I have been given but I am just now beginning to feel that I need to climb it and get over that mountain more so this time than ever before!
I see that there has got to be light at the end of the tunnel, or more than that, a whole new life awaits me for what I find is over that mountain now, and since my climb has gotten me almost to the top of that mountain, I now know that the climb is almost over because of my time in life. Of course I believe I have quite a few more fun years along the way, but I have to make sure I make the most of that climb. I have realized that what I have been doing all of my life is that climbing to get to where I need to go some day, but actually I needed to make the climb with all of it's struggles and dreams coming true along the way,The most important part of the struggle to get over that mountain!
The challenges in my life have brought me to a place and time that I think now I have wisdom enough to see clearly what I was challenged all my life to do! I also believe that since this will be the last bit of climbing I will have to do in my lifetime, I will not let anyone, or anything stand in my way to make it the best climb ever!
So now all I have to do now, is take a deep, deep breath and take this new path of challenges just to see what awaits me, because I know it's all been worth it!
I believe that at the end of this climb, there will be a much greater place waiting for me and that it really wasn't about what was on the other side, "but the climb"
So as your climb through life keeps going to get to the top of that mountain and over, make "the climb" worth it! Make every moment count and keep all the memories of the climb with you in your heart always!
By:
March 16, 2010
A beautiful love song by "Harrison"
Something in the way he moves
Attracts me like no other lover
Something in the way he woos me
I don't want to leave him now
You know I believe him now
Somewhere in his smile he knows
That I don't need no other lover
Something in his style that shows me
Don't want to leave him now
You know I believe him now
You're asking me will my love grow
I don't know, I don't know
You stick around now it may show
I don't know, I don't know
Something in the way he knows
And all I have to do is think of him
Something in the things he shows me
Don't want to leave him now
You know I believe him now
Great for St.Patrick's Day
One of the fastest, easiest recipes to make and Oh, soooo Delicious! Try it, you'll love it.
I made these with the green mint chips for St. Patty's Day for my grand kids just yesterday after school and they are already gone! So much for the St. Patty's Day surprise.
Chocolate Chip Cookies
Good for children with Dairy & Peanut Allergies
Good for children with Dairy & Peanut Allergies
Preheat oven to 350 degrees
2/3 C butter w/flax (smart balance light is the dairy free one)
¾ C raw cane sugar or one of the sugar substitutes like nevella or stevia it measures the same as sugar.
1 egg
1 teas. Vanilla
1 ½ C Organic unbleached flour
½ teas.baking soda
½ teas. Salt
1 pkg whole foods 360 degrees(that’s the name brand because it’s not contaminated with peanut) 12 oz. Or like this batch was ½ mint chips and ½ white choc. Chunks.
chocolate chips
In Mixer cream( softened slightly) the butter
Then add sugar and cream a little more til fluffy
Then add 1 egg and incorporate
Add vanilla
Then mix remaining dry ingredients together except for chips and mix until incorporated.
Add chips and mix slightly until evenly distributed into batter.
Place on parchment lined cookie sheet 2” apart
Bake for 8-10 minutes
Remove from oven and let set on cookie sheet for 2 minutes and then move to cooling rack.
Makes 20-24 cookies depending on which size ice cream scoop you use
This batch was made with 6 oz mint chips and 6 oz. white chocolate chunks. These almost tasted like the girl scout mint cookies.
Just be careful when dealing with children with peanut & tree nut allergies because not all brands of chips are created equal and they could be crossed contaminated.
But these are so delicious any way you make them, that everyone will be asking for the dairy free way to make them…Mmmmmmm
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March 15, 2010
"Relationships"
Relationships are tough at best! They start off with all the bells and whistles being blown and trickle down along the way while people get to know each other. Comfort sets in and sometimes all hell can break loose!
Sometimes you might get lucky and find that it stays pretty much the same too...You think of couples out there of every age group and you think to yourselves sometimes what is normal? What are you supposed to do to make this different for you than it was for your friends relationship? What can you do to make this different from your parents relationship? What can you do to make this different from past relationships? What can you do to withstand the storms that are for sure to come and go throughout a relationship? I mean what can be different for you than anyone else when all you ever are asking for is perfection?
There is no such thing as perfection in a relationship, unless of course you are expecting that there never will be fights, never differences of opinions, never annoying habits to contend with, never wise cracks to each other, and that romance won't fade a bit.
Most of all you just want consideration, thoughtfulness, caring, respect and love!
The really big "L" word.
You watch elderly people who are still holding hands while walking, and them being the perfect caretakers of their partners in life by opening doors for her, treating him a bit like a child when they are sick, turning to smile at one another from time to time, learning to know that "little things mean a lot" and sometimes you ask yourself, "What's their secret" Didn't they ever have all those problems? Didn't they ever fight?
The answer to that usually lies in the fact that all battles don't have to be won or lost by either party, but rather learning to survive the war! Learning to survive the differences? Learning to see that it's not always about right or wrong, but learning to agree to disagree from time to time and knowing when to let go of things....
It's just trusting that you've chosen the right partner in life and knowing that it's really possible to compliment each others personalities. Learning to RESPECT your partners ideals, dreams, dignity at all times. Giving them space to keep growing as we change in life. Learning to play on equal and stable ground. Learning that a great relationship is about communication and respect always.
Learning to never talk to anyone especially your partner, in a condescending tone because that would imply that you are better than your partner and that could be stepping on dangerous ground....
Never, never go to bed angry. Never go to bed without at least a "Goodnight" no matter how mad or upset you might be. Believe me, it's not an admission of guilt in any situation unless your partner treats it as such, it's just knowing that it's important to keep love alive... Sometimes all of those nights where you didn't say goodnight could mount up and the molehills keep growing until there is so much resentment built up in that relationship that you don't even remember where it all started. You don't even remember when was the last time that you knew who you were anymore. You keep things inside only to loose yourself along the way.
You always need to talk and even if you can't work things out today you have to keep coming back to it until you do. Don't let your mole hills become mountains that someday become unable to be climbed.
You always need to talk and even if you can't work things out today you have to keep coming back to it until you do. Don't let your mole hills become mountains that someday become unable to be climbed.
Treat your partner in life with all the respect, love and consideration you would give to your best friend in life, because when the rest of the world changes around the two of you, you will only have to look across the table every day and see that one special person that you understood needed nurturing to keep your friendship with them alive. That one special person that forgives you even when you've acted pretty stupid sometimes! That one person who was your best friend all along! Think of this concept, "treat your partner with the same respect you would treat a stranger" and you just might find the secret....
So as I sit back and ponder relationships, I hope that my children and their spouses have that kind of success in their marriages. I hope their children grow up knowing how very, very important it is to nurture relationships too someday, and I hope that all of you out there who just might be having difficulties right now, learn to communicate your feelings because without that, love can be wounded, love can die and nations have gone to war over mis-communications!
"Start every day fresh, and end every day with a Goodnight! No matter what!
Most of all, RESPECT, RESPECT, RESPECT!!!! All else will fall in line naturally..."js
"Love can be measured by those precious moments in life, that you don't let get away"js
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March 12, 2010
Families
Families are always going to be there for you when you need them most! Families encounter good times and bad and still come out fighting when they unite! Families don't even care when there are other things in their plans and other things in their life going on because if you need them, they'll be there!
I don't just mean when you're on top of the world and everything seems to be going just fine, I mean when you drop to your lowest point and you can't count on anyone else, they'll be there to help you get through it no matter what it is.
Sometimes I see dysfunctional families and I think, wow, that looks a lot like mine, I wonder what their dysfunctional families dysfunction is?
I wonder sometimes why people fight, why they pout, why they cry, why they worry, why some families just laugh more than others and what's the secret? I wonder about all those people out there that think they don't have a dysfunctional family but in actuality have more but just can't see it because they've never stepped back to examine theirs? Maybe it would be an admission that they too have some sorts of dysfunction that they thought was pretty normal but really is way out there or bizarre!
Isn't there a saying, "To each, His Own" I guess a definite distinction between those that know they have issues in their family and deal with them however they need to, can actually be more truthful than those that think nothing at all is wrong with them or their families and maybe to them, there really isn't. I think that looking into ones closet before you judge others is a good way of understanding that even if a family has problems, watch that family when it comes to the hard times, watch that family and how they do things when their family calls and needs them for anything. Watch that family when times get tough and you have no where to go, watch the doors open and the love shine in on all. Just watch when one of them gets in trouble or deal with major problems in their lives, watch how they know just what to do to help you get through things, and especially watch who runs to their aide first, FAMILY!
You can have in-laws in the mix and once they have truly become part of your family, they are like blood family because if you treat them that way when they join you, they'll be at your side no matter what! They'll fight with their sibling (in-laws) , laugh with them, cry with them, and worry with them, as if they were their own brothers and sisters. They'll help when you have children even if it means changing diapers and wiping noses, because it just doesn't matter, we are family!
So don't ever let someone think that they are in any way, better or worse than your dysfunctional family, because they aren't they just think they are. We all have our problems, worries, stresses, and of course dysfunctions going on, but always keep a very close eye on the ones that think they don't have these things because they are the ones that don't know that they have any problems at all. Sometimes it's just because they don't have enough passions in their lives to express their feelings the same way you do! Right or wrong, we all handle life differently not wrongly! We are only considered wrong to those who think they live in those glass houses but they should remember too, that people who live in them, shouldn't throw stones, because you never know when someone will throw them back!By:
March 10, 2010
"Life Over Easy"
When you think about life and all of the decisions you will have to make,
wouldn't you just rather be making decisions that are not always so hard
to make and still turn out pretty good?
I like to think that making decisions about important things aren't just
hard boiled but a little "over easy."
You make decisions day by day that sometimes are just as easy as "sunny side up" but the outcome of that day with it's "sunny side up" start could have continued throughout your day or it was just about how you felt that morning.
Sometimes those "sunny side up" days turn into "hard boiled" or "Just Over Easy" Sometimes those "sunny side up" days start off great and then as the day progresses they turn into the "hard boiled days" and you keep asking yourself,
"Why did I even leave the house today?"
I guess it's just because the chain of events that happen through a course of a day get harder as the day progresses and sometimes they just stay the same.
Let's take raising kids, and that's only because I have a few of my own and although my days surely weren't always "sunny side up" or "hard boiled", I did take one day at a time and tried to make them "just over easy" because life just isn't perfect!.
You are there day after day feeding children, shopping for children, being that chauffeur for children, disinfecting those scrapes and bruises for children, and even though the days were long and sometimes very tedious, you made it through just the "over easy way" Nothing too great, nothing too terrible just plain
"over easy"
Relationships in life are also something like that too. Yes you might get your great days "the sunny side up" kind" and then you'll get those "hard boiled" days that are just plain tougher than you ever imagined your day to be. Then there are those days that you are just going along and everything is quite normal or mundane, or just plain easier to get through and those are what I refer to as the "over easy" days.
I've just recently learned about this "over easy" kind of attitude from someone I've met recently in my life and I guess that is how this person lives their life, or so they really think they do? Never expecting that every day will be totally "sunny side up" nor expecting that all of the days will be so difficult and "hard boiled" just being "over easy " is just fine!
But isn't it truly just fine with us too? Our so called, "didn't do much today" days, are those "over easy" days.
Those are the days when you just are going through your routine with nothing unusual or earth shattering or profoundly wonderful occurs either.
So as quiet, not too eventful days happen, I'm going to think of them as a blessing too because
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wouldn't you just rather be making decisions that are not always so hardto make and still turn out pretty good?
I like to think that making decisions about important things aren't just
hard boiled but a little "over easy."
You make decisions day by day that sometimes are just as easy as "sunny side up" but the outcome of that day with it's "sunny side up" start could have continued throughout your day or it was just about how you felt that morning.
Sometimes those "sunny side up" days turn into "hard boiled" or "Just Over Easy" Sometimes those "sunny side up" days start off great and then as the day progresses they turn into the "hard boiled days" and you keep asking yourself,
"Why did I even leave the house today?"
I guess it's just because the chain of events that happen through a course of a day get harder as the day progresses and sometimes they just stay the same.
Let's take raising kids, and that's only because I have a few of my own and although my days surely weren't always "sunny side up" or "hard boiled", I did take one day at a time and tried to make them "just over easy" because life just isn't perfect!.
You are there day after day feeding children, shopping for children, being that chauffeur for children, disinfecting those scrapes and bruises for children, and even though the days were long and sometimes very tedious, you made it through just the "over easy way" Nothing too great, nothing too terrible just plain
"over easy"
Relationships in life are also something like that too. Yes you might get your great days "the sunny side up" kind" and then you'll get those "hard boiled" days that are just plain tougher than you ever imagined your day to be. Then there are those days that you are just going along and everything is quite normal or mundane, or just plain easier to get through and those are what I refer to as the "over easy" days.
I've just recently learned about this "over easy" kind of attitude from someone I've met recently in my life and I guess that is how this person lives their life, or so they really think they do? Never expecting that every day will be totally "sunny side up" nor expecting that all of the days will be so difficult and "hard boiled" just being "over easy " is just fine!
But isn't it truly just fine with us too? Our so called, "didn't do much today" days, are those "over easy" days.
Those are the days when you just are going through your routine with nothing unusual or earth shattering or profoundly wonderful occurs either.
So as quiet, not too eventful days happen, I'm going to think of them as a blessing too because
"Just Over Easy" is just fine for me too.....I think I will try to live my life with most of my days being just, "Over Easy"
I'm sure there will be lots of "sunny side" up days and a few, "hard boiled" ones too, but it's okay with me because, "Every day we can celebrate life, no matter how the day turns out, is just fine with me!" jsBy:
March 9, 2010
"Alice in Wonderland"
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It was great in 3D, probably would have even been better at the IMax
Children and adults will enjoy, although it may be a little frightening for younger children.
I've got a nephew (10) that doesn't like anything remotely scary because he has nightmares. However, my (10) year old would've been fine. So I guess it just depends on the child. Visual effects were outstanding, there were a lot of funny moments.
Johnny Depp was excellent and so were the costumes. It was really fascinating without a dull moment to spare. There was always something to be amazed about. Be sure to check out the trailer below: And yes it is that spectacular throughout the whole movie.
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Fog
What a phenomena don't you think?Living out in the country I see many mornings and evenings of fog, either in early spring or late fall.
Okay, so this is still considered winter but the weather has warmed up enough to cause this to happen even now!
There is a long explanation of why this happens and although it might be interesting to me, it isn't to everyone and I don't want to bore you with the details, I'll just show a few pictures of what I think to be quite beautiful about the fog. I think that there are so many things in life about "Mother Nature" that if we take the time to notice, can be quite beautiful and very intriguing at times.This is a shot of the Fog rolling in on a beach and that what appears to be a rock, has actually got people standing on top of it with their dog watching the Fog Roll In. Cool huh?
I find that just the way the sun hits the fog sometimesmakes it even more spectacular too.
Or how about from up in the sky watching the sun
come up and the masses of clouds that have touched
the earth and surrounded this bridge too?
Maybe it's the music they play in those scary movies
that you think about when you see fog?
Is it the fear of the unknown?
What's at the end of that bridge?
Whatever the reasons are that some of us like the fog and some of us don't, it can turn very scary given certain circumstances. Sometimes even when you drive through it you can become disoriented and that's what makes you sometimes loose sight of the fact that nothing changed ahead of you but because you don't know that an animal or a person might step out in front of you at any given moment, you panic a little and that's how dangerous things can happen like car accidents or hitting something you didn't know was there.
In my opinion, Fog is intriguing to me and although it can look quite beautiful at times and scary at other times, it's part of life's phenomenons and I'm going to enjoy each and every one of them!
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March 8, 2010
Time in a bottle
Saving time in a bottle is a saying that turned into a great song by Jim Croche.The meaning behind all of it reminds you that if only you could save those moments in your life where you wanted time to just stand still for awhile. That moment in time when you received your first kiss. That moment in time when you shared a special glance with that special person in your life on your wedding day. That moment in time when you experienced the birth of your children. Although these are probably some of the greatest moments in your life, what about all of those moments when you thought to yourself. I want to stay in this moment forever! To each person it's a different moment on their clock, in their mind and in their heart, but if only you could save that moment when you felt someone looked at you in a certain way and you were so absolutely sure, that it was a moment you were truly loved and knew it was something you have never felt before! Wouldn't it be nice to put that time in that bottle of yours? Then there is those times when your children have done something so absolutely outstanding in your mind that you wish you could save that moment in your bottle too! You are so sure that you will never forget it as long as you live but time passes and moments disappear and you really can't save that moment forever in you mind but if you could have had "time in a bottle" where it would be safe for always, wouldn't it be nice if every once in awhile you could just open up that little bottle filled with time,
and just enjoy?
Wouldn't it be nice sometimes if you could save "time in a bottle" for all of those people in the world that get robbed of their memories as they age? Wouldn't it be nice to just hand them their bottle when they are sad and sitting alone in a nursing home just so they could listen and smile once again?
Wouldn't it be nice to be able to give that "time in a bottle" as a gift to people who sometimes just forget how truly wonderful their lives really were? Wouldn't it be nice if you could really count on memories that last forever?
Wouldn't it be nice to save "Time in a Bottle" for all?
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March 7, 2010
Snowball Cake and Cupcakes
Another Easy recipe and the kids who like coconut, loved them and they are so cute and so easy!
It's a Kraft recipe and we just loved it! We couldn't use a bowl because I didn't have an oven proof bowl but I did have round cake pans that are used to make bowling balls for kids birthdays.
They worked fine. I found that the cream that you used for the centers works just fine too when you use fat free pudding mixed with fat free cool whip and 1/3 less fat cream cheese too.
Ours were the lower in fat version but if you don't mind, go right ahead and make it just like the recipe.
I've lowered our fat intake on almost every recipe I make now, because I'm using weight watchers and I count my points. My normal cupcake size was 2 points and that's doing great for a full size cupcake!
Enjoy!
Oh, by the way, the kids don't know the difference either! Nor do the big kids!
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March 4, 2010
Church Bells
It was a bright and early Sunday morning. My sisters and I woke up quick and eager to start our day. The night before we had excitedly sat out our Easter morning attire, three white woven bonnets and petite white gloves made of lace for each. Our patent leather shoes were the same color, and hopefully without scuff marks from the multiple times we tried them on. Our dresses were unique, each of us picked out our own reflecting little pieces of our personalities.The youngest sister wore taffeta with the tiniest polka dots in an antique white. The middle sister wore pink with lots of ruffles and ribbons. And I wore a little of both, pink ribbons and polka dots highlighted my bright white taffeta dress.
My mom spent endless time that morning taking out our curlers and brushing through all our hair. Each of us got a genuine style for underneath our bonnets.
Our dad handed us a little brown envelope filled with change to drop in the church basket for when it came around.
The drive to church was uncomfortable, our dresses were being smashed down as we sat, and a few bonnets fell off. But we were careful not to let it spoil our day. The parking lot was full so we had to park far away. In hindsight I’m glad for it because this is where my most vivid memories came from. The sun shone very brightly peaking in and out through the blowing weeping willow branches that formed a path along the way. The freshness of the early morning day was all around us in sound with the many birds chirping. But the most memorable sound of all for me was the church bells that started to ring on our way in. Harmonious soft tones, each with a different resonating chime. I had to squint through the bright sunshine to see the bronze bells high atop the church steeple. What a beautiful sound that beckoned us inside. People from all around us were quickly heading for the door, slowing my pace I lingered so I wouldn’t miss a thing.
March 1, 2010
And This Too, "Shall Pass"
In the time of your life as a mom you can remember many things, but the times that seemed the most fun to remember were the times you spent growing up with your kids! So I'll take you back in time to when I was a young mother with all the chaos of daily life and help you remember that it was/nt so bad after all.I started out life as a young mom at 22 years old (In those days, we married very young, I was 18). I was suddenly a mom of triplets (2 boys, 1 girl) and was very excited to have children as was my husband.
We really didn't have a clue what trying to take care of 3 babies all at once was going to be like, but we were just so happy to have them and know that they were healthy, so it just didn't matter.
We brought them home from the Hospital within two weeks of them being born and we were ready for it all.
3 cribs, 3 bassinets, lots of clothes, a diaper service and of course offers of help from family and friends. The hours were so long some days we thought time was added to the clock!
The nights always woke us up in a frenzy just trying to get to them quick enough to feed them one by one instead of trying to feed all three at the same time. That just never worked because when one started crying they all started!
I made the bottles, my husband ran down the hall and scooped them up and started changing the diapers and then I would feed two and he would feed one. Lots of nights of this routine filled with days of changing diapers so much, that my mom and I (who was there every single day for the first 18 months)
didn't know or remember who was changed last! Feedings, schedules, rashes, feedings, schedules, rashes, and of course 100's of diapers! Days turned into nights without a moments notice and you never thought you'd get through it all and then it starts to happen and you say, "This too shall pass"
Another chapter starts and they become toddlers full of life and mischief. You never think you'll ever be able to breathe again or take time for yourself or to just even go to the restroom by yourself, ever again! Then for all that time it takes feeding, stopping them from getting hurt, potty training, you get another pleasant surprise a blessing handed to you, you're going to have another baby! This time you are more concerned that if it's only a single child will he (in our case) ever be able to handle emotionally the fact that he will forever be known as the triplets little brother? So you worry and fret but you say "This too shall pass."
The baby comes home and he's a beautiful big blue eyed, blond haired little cherub. You can't even fathom the idea any more that he won't be able to cope with being the little brother to anyone, because he's so wonderful all on his own. So with all the spitting up, bumps, bruises, fighting, food throwing ,endless chaos and still you find the strength every single day to get up again and put a smile on your face and start the day again. You wonder when will it ever get easier and the day comes and you think to yourself "This too shall pass".
As if you were not busy enough during the infancy and toddler years,the adolescent years are now upon you. Your a room mom, party planner and referee. While the fighting and arguing between siblings continues,so does your work schedule, the school schedule, and the extracurricular activities. Only to be taken for granted by everyone and anyone who needs you at this point in their lives. You take on a new part time job because you actually think the children need you less.That is so untrue, because now you've become a cook and a chauffeur for them and all of their friends too. You suddenly find yourself saying, have I lost my mind, I've added a job to this mess? When does this ever get easier, what time is bedtime?"But this too shall pass."
Now, they are true teenagers and you start dealing with worrying all the time, and I'm saying to myself and my husband, " Who's this crazy looking kid my daughter is trying to shove down our throats this week? Or what's with that little girl who shouldn't even be on a date at her age, let alone, climbing all over my son?"
The driving lessons you have to give them which makes your gray hair start coming in rapidly. In my case I had to drive with three crazy teenagers and give equal time to each of them and was only spared some of the horror when I had to do it again when our youngest child needed the time to learn too.
Dating, proms, mood swings, awful mouths that you were threatening to wash out with dish soap several times a day and then there is the constant comments they are saying now to you that consist of "Well my friends parents let my friends do it" or "Why do I always have to dress like I'm an orphan? Or do I have to wear these generic clothes? Are you trying to make everyone think I'm adopted? "I want spaghettios, not mommy'os. Or how about the youngest one saying when he turns into that teenager, "You like the triplets better than me, or you give them everything and I get all the leftovers, or they get better cakes on their birthday than you ever gave me." "And this too shall pass."
Now they are those young adults who of course know everything and parents are just so outdated with everything and they really believe we haven't a clue what life's about and how did we get so old not knowing anything? Amazing to me...And of course,again more comments from them, "my life is such a mess and it's all your fault!"
" you traumatized us by making us dress the way you did and take us to parks where the bees were chasing us, or all the times you never let us have our own birthday parties separate, or how come they get a train cake and I just get a truck cake""I'll be lucky if I ever find someone that thinks I'm normal". In spite of all of the torture they've been through, now they've found the woman or man of their dreams and you are so positive that it will never last because they all seem to be partially insane, but you say as long as you love them and respect them that is all we can hope for. They get married and the battles begin and you feel like you are starting over again, and now you've inherited more children. "Their wives and husbands too".
By this time you and your husband are so elated to have them finally out of the house so you can actually find out where your partner has been hiding all those years?
Suddenly those adult children, are coming back and forth in your home like it has revolving doors and you don't remember when you forgot to lock that door.
So I'm asking myself now, "Did I really forget to lock that door last night before I fell asleep?
And this too shall pass.
It's the years now when "your babies " start having babies of their own and you start laughing so much more just because they are now the ones being driven totally insane. It's now the time when you keep seeing reflections of "your life as young parents" and although you laugh a lot, you keep being asked for your advice about certain things and decisions that they are thinking about when it comes to the raising of them, But don't fall for it, because if you think they really want that advice, "You are Wrong! Because when you give it to them, they tell you "you need to step back and mind your own business, they will raise their children the way they want to and they don't believe in spankings". Now a days, the new rules are never give the children a pat on their butts anymore, it's Time Out and that mostly doesn't work at all and now you've got all these grand kids that are starting to talk to their parents as if they are the adults and the adults are the children. Really getting scary," but this too shall pass."
Now they are all having easier times with their children as they are growing, and of course, things are still as chaotic as it was in our day. Believe me, easier in my vocabulary doesn't mean raising children is easy by no means it's just that you have a couple more minutes to relax when relatives are all get together because you aren't always worried they will get hurt or you don't always have to be feeding or changing diapers anymore. That's the only easier I see. Well of course now, Im not the one taking care of them, they do....but time has passed so fast that you now wonder "Look at this, I'm actually sitting back watching and not doing, when did this happen?". Now these parents are saying to themselves, Will this day ever pass?
As I now am wondering just when I thought it would get easier for me and my partner in life, why was he taken from me? how did our life go by so fast? How did I miss the time passing? When did my children become parents? Is this loneliness I feel now, for real? How come the door stopped opening and closing and why aren't the children coming in and out all the time? Of course when my husband was still here we had those Sunday dinners with kids and grandkids and little ones running all over the place, but now it's only when they can find the time because now they have all the chaotic events going on and have no time. How did I miss so much?
So as you were praying for "This to pass", it did, and you wonder why? And how you now wished you could turn back the hands of time to the chaos and life that was so filled with laughter at times. We had times of tears and the times of joy along the way. Great times, bad times, moments to remember and moments we'd like to forget. The moments when there were food fights and baseball practice, dance lessons and homework and moving in and out.
When did your little boys become men and dads, and your daughters became women and moms?
So as you young parents out there keep saying throughout your lives (as we did then) "This too shall pass", the one day will come when you really wished it hadn't, and at least not so quickly!
"I do".
By: Janice
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