Just Thoughts and Nothing Else

Families are always going to be there for you when you need them most!  Families encounter good times and bad and still come out fighting when they unite!  Families don't even care when there are other things in their plans and other things in their life going on because  if you need them, they'll be there!


I don't just mean when you're on top of the world and everything seems to be going just fine, I mean when you drop to your lowest point and you can't count on anyone else, they'll be there to help you get through it no matter what it is.

 I wonder and wish sometimes that I could be that little fly on the wall that could actually here everything that's really going on with other people.   I'd like to know about people and how they deal with things.  I wonder if there are any real dysfunctional families that can't be fixed? or maybe they wouldn't know how to act if they weren't that way?

I wonder sometimes why people fight, why they pout, why they cry, why they worry, why some families just laugh more than others and what's the secret?  I wonder about all those people out there that think they don't have a dysfunctional family but in actuality have more but just can't see it because they've never stepped back to examine theirs?  Maybe it would be an admission that they too have some sorts of dysfunction that they thought was pretty normal but really is way out there or bizarre!


Isn't there a saying, "To each, His Own"  I guess a definite distinction between those that know they have issues in their family and deal with them however they need to, can actually be more truthful than those that think nothing at all is wrong with them or their families and maybe to them, there really isn't.  I think that looking into ones closet before you judge others is a good way of understanding that even if a family has problems, watch that family when it comes to the hard times, watch that family and how they do things when their family calls and needs them for anything.  Watch that family when times get tough and you have no where to go, watch the doors open and the love shine in on all.  Just watch when one of them gets in trouble or deal with major problems in their lives, watch how they know just what to do to help you get through things, and especially watch who runs to their aide first, FAMILY!

Families will always treat your children as if they were their own, they will always jump to their defense when they are needed and they will try to stay out of your business only if they really believe they need to, otherwise they'll be giving advice, (even when you don't want it) and they'll be thinking to themselves that something you did was stupid and uncalled for, but they'll stand beside you anyway and they'll always make sure no one can hurt you because there is always safety in numbers.

You can have in-laws in the mix and once they have truly become part of your family, they are like blood family because if you treat them that way when they join you, they'll be at your side no matter what!  They'll fight with their sibling (in-laws) , laugh with them, cry with them, and worry with them, as if they were their own brothers and sisters.  They'll help when you have children even if it means changing diapers and wiping noses, because it just doesn't matter, we are family!

So don't ever let someone think that they are in any way, better or worse than your dysfunctional family, because they aren't they just think they are.   We all have our problems, worries, stresses, and of course dysfunctions going on, but always keep a very close eye on the ones that think they don't have these things because they are the ones that don't know that they have any problems at all.  Sometimes it's just because they don't have enough passions in their lives to express their feelings the same way you do!  Right or wrong, we all handle life differently not wrongly!  We are only considered wrong to those who think they live in those glass houses but they should remember too, that people who live in them, shouldn't throw stones, because you never know when someone will throw them back!



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